Letters to My Former Single Self-You are so dumb

So! We made it! It's FRIDAY!!! Sweet Baby Jesus, I thought we'd never make it. This week was brutal. I am counting down til 5...who's with me!!???

It's Week #3 of this link-up hosted by Lisette at Northern Belle Diaries. I keep saying this, but I really enjoy this link up! If you'd like to check out my previous letters, check here and here.

This week's question is:

Over the years, what did you learn you needed in a significant other?  What did you learn about yourself?

Dearest, stupid single Martha,

 

By the time you are 28, you are so dumb about men (and yourself) you will know what you don't want! That will open you up for learning what you do. Oh, how the game changes when you figure that out!

You are going to learn that you may want to be the pants-wearer...but it's much easier to be in a give-and-take relationship where you work as a team. You are not a dictator or a tyrant. Stop trying to be in control!

You learn you need someone who understands who you are, where you came from, who you want to be, and who you sometimes are...and loves you anyway, in spite of yourself.

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You learn that you need someone who is a  man, not a man-boy. You'll look for a provider and a protector because you figure out that you really can't and don't want to take care of everything. Crazy, I know- you never saw that coming. But you do.

You learn that you need someone who knows you are your own worst enemy, and doesn't try to push you too far, but pushes just far enough.

You learn that you need someone who understands that if a marriage isn't strong, and isn't top priority, your family will fail.

You learn that romance is a million little daily things.

You learn to never, ever take someone for granted.

You will also learn that love changes. Grows deeper, stronger. And it's good.

You learn to tell someone you don't need help-you just want him to listen.

You learn to tell someone what he is doing is hurtful without losing your temper.

You learn to trust again.

You also learn that if a man tells you he will call/text/email/stop by, and doesn't, than he really isn't worth it in the first place. A real man who loves you always makes time to call/text/email/stop by if he tells you he will.

You learn you don't have to change parts of yourself to be worthy of love.

You learn that love at first sight totally exists.

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I'm so glad you learned all of these lessons. At 32, we still have work to do on that whole control issue...but we're getting there. Baby steps.

Love,
Happily Married Martha